Nowadays, many single dogs do not want to fall in love, but they chase girls at all, and they are always rejected when chasing girls. What should we do in this situation? Let me analyze the reasons why chasing girls are always rejected and solution.
1. Overexposure of need
When pursuing a girl, you should proceed step by step. If you have just met a girl, Sometimes, if you launch a fierce attack and pursue her, you will not only overly expose your sense of need, but also make her feel a lot of pressure.
Before you have established attraction and made a girl interested in you, if you care too much about her life and treat her well, then she will subconsciously feel that you are too purposeful. , resisting you from the bottom of my heart.
If your efforts happen to be something she doesn’t like, it will make her even more troubled.
So when you first get to know each other, you have to hide your neediness and reveal a feeling of "I'm not looking for you to fall in love, I just think you're quite interesting" to avoid it. Disliked by girls.
2. Not able to grasp the balance point between two people
Attractiveness and availability I believe everyone has heard that attraction and availability are like two scales. If you want a relationship to develop well, you must keep a balance between the two.
Just like the better you are and the better your appearance or material conditions are, the more attractive you will be to girls.
But if your attractiveness is too high, your availability to girls will be lower.
Why do you say this? Because excessive attraction will cause girls to have questions like "Are we suitable?", "Will he like me?" If the answer is no, she will Stay away from you.
On the contrary, if your availability is too high, you will be less attractive to girls.
Just like the relationship between celebrities and fans, for celebrities, the availability of fans is high, but the attraction is low.
No matter how fanatically fans pursue celebrities, they will not have much attraction to them.
If you want to be a girl’s “little fan”, then she will naturally lose interest in you.
Therefore, we must maintain a balance between the two. While sincerely treating girls well, we must make ourselves better and better and more attractive.
Learn to say no, don’t respond to her every request, and don’t always hang around her.
This dynamic balance in the relationship between the sexes cannot be solved overnight, and requires continuous testing and control.
3. To womenToo good to be born
Many boys can’t understand why they are so nice to a girl when they are chasing her, obey her words, and devote a lot of their time, energy, best and most romantic things to this girl. , but in the end she still didn't accept herself.
This is because girls are unwilling to take responsibility in relationships. To put it simply, although she knows that the boy likes her, the boy has never clearly stated a reasonable reason for asking her to be your girlfriend, so she will not be with you. So in reality there are very few girls who take the initiative.
Girls also have a kind of mental antagonism. Mental ending is actually a mental activity that occurs in many people. The main manifestation is that when one kind of psychology appears, another opposite psychology often appears.
For example, when most people are afraid, there will be a voice in their hearts telling themselves not to be afraid; and when they are praised and praised, many people will also remind themselves from their hearts not to be proud.
When you are particularly nice to a girl and she experiences satisfaction and happiness, an opposite emotion will appear in her heart, reminding yourself not to indulge in this mood. This is why you can't be too nice to girls.
