You have just met a girl. You are very fond of her, and she has no obvious dislike for you. What should you do to quickly get closer to her and turn her into your girlfriend?
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In fact, only one technique is enough, and this technique involves a concept called the "pedal effect".
What is the pedal effect? ??Simply put, if a person agrees to your small request, she will agree again when you make further requests.
So when pursuing a girl you just met, you need to understand the following issues:
1 , Make appropriate demands for girls
In fact, many boys have a clear mind when they are single. I cannot be a licker, how can I be so humble.
But once you fall in love, everything changes completely. He treats girls all the time, gives them whatever they ask for, and takes care of every detail of their lives.
For girls, having such a good boyfriend is indeed a dream come true.
However, if you can’t guarantee that you can live your whole life without asking for anything in return, don’t just give.
Because for you, after a long time, you will feel that you have no sense of gain, you will not feel happy, and you will even start to be picky about girls.
For girls, the gap between front and back can also bring harm to them. If you meet someone who is a scumbag, she may not appreciate your wholehearted dedication.
Therefore, in a relationship, making appropriate demands can balance the relationship between the two people.
Many boys may be influenced by traditional thinking, thinking that they are grown men and can handle things themselves. In fact, sometimes making your own requests to the other person can make the other person feel that you need her, and it can also take the opportunity to warm up your relationship.
For example, when you need to talk, when you need companionship, when you need guidance, you can express your thoughts to the other party.
2. Step by step will help achieve the goal
Of course, letting you express your requirements does not mean You can ask the other party to do this or that without restraint, but we have to find some method. This is the essence of the "pedal effect" I want to tell you.
As I have explained to you before, in compliance with the law of "pedal effect", the first step is to make a small request, and after she agrees, start the second step and make further requests. .
For example, you know that she is lazy and doesn’t like to go out very much, but you really want to ask her to go hiking with her on the weekend. If you say it directly, she will most likely be rejected. You can invite her to go to the movies first: "I haven't been in a good mood lately, and I want to go to the movies."Can we watch the movie together?"
After watching the movie, if you feel that the other person is quite happy with you, you can try to suggest that you want to go hiking and relax on the weekend.
Knowing that you are in a bad mood, plus watching movies with you and feeling good getting along with you, she will probably agree to the invitation to climb the mountain.
In fact, this also confirms the saying: If she doesn’t like you, it’s useless what you do. But if she agrees to your invitation, doesn’t this prove that you Is there still a chance?
So, don’t block your own way before putting in the effort. Even if it’s just to confirm whether the other person likes you, you have to take some action. No?
Another mistake that 90% of boys make is that they are anxious to confirm the relationship after not getting along with a girl for a long time, and confess their feelings immediately. It turns out that the girl has feelings for him. I still rejected him.
This is the result of not knowing how to proceed step by step. At first, you asked her to have a meal and she agreed. When you asked her to go out, she agreed. Later, when you asked her for help, she also agreed. , and later held hands and agreed, hugged and agreed, wouldn’t the ending be very clear?
3. Set pursuit goals It varies from person to person
The pedaling effect can not only be used on the other party, but it is also very helpful in improving your ability to get along with girls.
Many boys meet a girl they like. The first thought is that I want to pursue her, so I treat her well, take her to eat delicious food, watch movies, buy her gifts, and then confess my love to her. This process seems to be okay. , but this fate is not the same for everyone, and not everyone can be so smooth.
For example, it is easy for some people to pursue girls, but for you, it is just one thing. The difficult thing is that you don’t dare to talk to girls, or you don’t know how to chat with girls.
Then you can set goals for yourself step by step from childhood to adulthood.
For example. : Set a small goal first, go up and say hello to her. After success, set a second goal: get her WeChat account, and then ask her out...
