Many people think that money is the most important thing when chasing a girl they like, but not long ago, after the scandal between Wang Sicong and Sun Yining flooded the screen, I analyzed the principal’s chat history and found three questions. I hope they can help you who are struggling in relationships. Some inspiration.

1. Show value before providing value

You know, even if your The values ????are excellent in all aspects. If you don't know how to display them properly, rich people like Wang Sicong will also be rejected by girls.

Of course, the value of Sicong does not need to be demonstrated too much. We don't know how he showed it to girls before.

However, for most of us ordinary boys, if the value of a certain aspect is not as well-known as Sicong, we should work more on the display level before providing value to the other party.

This is because the essence of "licking" is to give emotional value. In a relationship, if you give for a long time but neglect to show your own value, your contribution will easily be ignored by the other party.

To put it bluntly, among girls, she will only feel that she has met someone who is pretty good to her. As for whether she should be with this person or whether there is any reason to be together, she has not seen it. .

The reason is that as the old saying goes, falling in love depends on attraction, not pursuit. Providing value is an act of pursuit, and the purpose of showing value is attraction.

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2. A sense of security determines whether you can be together

Friends who often pay attention to the news in the industry must know that there is a high probability that he is not the type who wants to live a good life with a girl and rush to get married as he said in the chat history.

It can also be seen from the chat that although he has expressed his great liking for girls more than once, in most cases, he is still in a state of "advance and attack, retreat and defense"

When it comes to girls. It seems that it has become "only contact me when you miss me and leave me at any time". Coupled with the pressure of previous chats, this will make her very insecure and have no intention of establishing a long-term relationship.

We say that in the early stages of a relationship, you must control your sense of need and convey to the girl, "I like you, but I don't have to do it with you." This will make her think you are "challenging." I am eager to conquer you.

But when it comes to establishing a relationship, this kind of restraint becomes insecure for girls.source of feeling.

Therefore, in the early stages of a relationship, the most important thing is to manage her needs well, attract her with value, and at the same time keep a sense of mystery to prevent her from feeling that you are all in on her;

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If both parties intend to develop a long-term relationship, they can give her a sufficient sense of security by fulfilling their promises and letting the other party feel that "she is in your future."

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3. The most important thing in love is to take the initiative

We have all heard the saying: lick One person is a licking dog; licking ten people is a "wolf warrior".

Some friends are deeply involved in dog licking without knowing it. I would like to advise these friends: stop losses in time. You don't have to pay too much for someone who doesn't care about you.

And there are some friends who knowingly lick the dog and do it, which is understandable. Because when we reach that state, we are no longer licking dogs.

Generally speaking, the most important thing for a person is to know what he wants and what role he desires to play in this relationship.

Even if you lick, you must be the most sober one. This is taking the initiative in the relationship.

Finally, in relationships, if we just give blindly without any positive feedback from the other party, we will become licking dogs.

But if we combine the above three points, grasp the value, manage the demand well, and seize the initiative in the relationship, this is not licking the dog, this is called fun.

So don’t see other people’s failed experiences in licking dogs and feel that we should no longer contribute to each other.

It is not advisable to give up eating because of choking. It is the best policy to use the correct method and make the other party pay for the relationship appropriately.

After all, love that goes in both directions is meaningful.


3 things you must know when chasing girls and establish a correct thinking about love