When chatting with girls, if there is a problem with the value display method, then it will not be able to effectively attract girls.
Although some people are not in good condition, they know how to use their strengths and avoid weaknesses and show off the best part of themselves to attract girls, so even diaosi are very popular with women.
Although some people have very good conditions, they don’t know how to show it, and girls won’t be able to see your value. Or over-exhibition turns into showing off and showing off, which makes girls feel disgusted. Then even if you are tall, rich and handsome, you will not be liked by girls.
So how do you show your high value when chatting with girls? You need to do the following 4 "don'ts".
1. Don’t show off your wealth
Many boys like to do this when showing off their financial ability: buy something that is very expensive for ordinary people. Things, things that cannot be consumed, are always described as cheap, or simply called cheap goods, in order to show one's wealth.
For example: "Oh, you are talking about this ring. I thought my ex-girlfriend wanted it, so I bought a couple's version. It only cost 50,000 yuan, which is very cheap."
Wait, it’s cheap?
Most people buy rings for about a thousand yuan, or even a few hundred yuan in many cases. Only a few people can afford rings worth tens of thousands of yuan. But if you use words like "talent" and "cheap" to describe it... your idea is to let girls know that you are rich, but in fact, if you are pursuing a girl with relatively ordinary financial ability, then this way of speaking is often It will make her very uncomfortable. Because these things that are quite luxurious to her are actually received by other girls casually, and she will feel that her previous life has been spent on dogs.
Then in this case, a girl’s mentality may change in two ways:
Find out that she has worked hard to survive It's not as valuable as the gifts that other girls receive casually, so your self-esteem is hurt, and then you have a stress reaction, treating you as a pretender and staying away from you.
My self-esteem is strengthened, and I feel that my financial ability is too different from yours, and we are not on the same level. If we force ourselves to be together, it will only lead to many conflicts. If I marry you, I will have no family status, so I dare not be with you.
Therefore, this kind of wealth-showing value display method sometimes not only fails to attract girls, but may actually push her away.
Some people even directly put money and gifts on the table with specific figures in exchange for girls.
"You have to know that I never like to treat my girlfriend badly. I spent almost 1 million on my ex during the year I was together, so I would also like you to be my girlfriend. Spend money on you.”
"This sports car was originally intended to be driven by my ex, but unfortunately we broke up. If you are with me, it's okay to give it to you."
This kind of naked display of money and high-value gifts attracts girls to follow Your method of staying together is, to put it bluntly, using money to buy women, which is an insult to girls with normal outlook.
There are only two types of girls that can be attracted by nakedly showing off wealth, one is a green tea bitch, and the other is a liar, then you Which one do you like?
You can create an impression on girls that your life is worry-free and of high quality by chatting; you can inadvertently reveal your wealth by telling stories; Sometimes you can show girls your working environment and other methods for soft presentation.
Let girls "discover" that you are a man with high survival value, instead of instilling your value into her. Only in this way can your value be truly attractive to girls.
2. Don’t reply instantly every time
No matter the frequency or reply time, it will reveal a person’s inner meaning (or in other words, make the other party misunderstand) .
For example, if you reply instantly every time she takes the initiative to chat with you, it is easy for a girl to think that you are either not working, or that you are playing with your mobile phone with nothing to do at work. (The so-called reply in seconds means that a girl takes the initiative to chat with you, and you reply to her quickly, ranging from a few seconds to half a minute.)
Unless you have a mine at home and several houses. By renting, you can live a life of leisure without working, otherwise girls will seriously doubt your value.
The best reply speed is to reply within 1-10 minutes after the girl starts sending you a message.
Generally speaking, almost 1 minute has passed since you received the message, put down what you were doing, and started typing carefully, so 1 minute is considered the lower limit of the normal reply time.
But it’s not appropriate to deliberately delay for too long. Replying too slowly may cause a girl to lose interest in chatting with you. For example, a girl is bored and wants to chat with you, but you don't reply until an hour later. By this time, the girl has found other things to do, or has made an appointment with someone, so there is no point in chatting with her.
3. Don’t chat endlessly
When you are chatting Braking midway during the hottest moments is also a good way to create a sense of high value.
"I'm sorry, I'll answer the customer's call first."
"My friend asked me to deal with something, and we'll talk later."
In this way, girls will I feel like I still have more to say, I miss you even more, and I also give youShe shows your daily status and conveys to her high-value information such as a fulfilling life, a busy work, and a wide range of contacts.
Tips: Occasionally when you come back from work, you can "complain" to her about what just happened. "I'm so thirsty. I've been talking to the client about the plan for a whole hour. Finally it's over. I Drink water first. "This way you can use the opportunity of front and back feedback to show your ability from the side and appear more natural.
4. Don’t use other high-value people to set off yourself
For example, a certain leader is my uncle, and a certain boss is my business partner.
Having a good relationship with some powerful people and having contacts with them proves in disguise that you are not bad at all. If girls believe it, it will certainly show your high value.
But what if a girl doesn’t believe it? In her eyes, you will immediately become a show-off who likes to brag. Not only does that fail to increase your value, but it actually reduces it.
Therefore, generally do not easily use other high-value people to set off you as a means of demonstrating value.
This principle is actually the same as what was said before about not showing off your wealth nakedly. Being rich, having a high-end job, having strong connections, and even being handsome are all hard values. If any hard value is displayed directly, it will make people think it is showing off and make people feel defensive.
Especially if you do not show enough soft values ??(interesting conversation, rich knowledge, caring for others, etc. our inner qualities), relying solely on hard values ??to attract girls will make girls A lot of concerns arise.
For example, she may feel that she is interested in you because you have money/you will save her decades of struggle before she likes you. Then she will feel that she will be regarded as a realistic material woman, and thus she will be attracted to you. You feel repelled and don't want to get close to you. This is why some brothers are obviously very good, but they still cannot be liked by girls.
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