In fact, we have said many times that girls are not attracted by chasing them, but by attracting them. As long as you are attractive enough to girls, then girls will naturally be willing to contact you when you are in contact with them. And if you are good for nothing and have nothing, even if you take the initiative to pursue girls, girls will not look at you more. So the question is, how to make a girl fall in love with you?
1. Manage your first impression well
When you first meet a girl, the information that the girl first inputs through the first impression will have an impact on your future cognition. effect. In layman's terms: the information obtained first is the most impressive, which is the primacy effect.
For example,
A person has the following personality: jealous, stubborn, picky, impulsive, hard-working, and smart. Do you like her? You don’t like it, right?
Another person has the following personality: smart, hard-working, impulsive, picky, stubborn, jealous. Do you like her? The impression is better, right?
In fact, the person behind is not perfect, but he looks capable and motivated. The crux of the matter is that just disrupting the order in which the information appears is enough to create two different impressions. People then combine this impression with their personal understanding of the impression to form a first impression.
The primacy effect is a good example of why first impressions are so powerful: a quickly formed first impression affects people's interpretation of subsequent information. Once a judgment is made, it affects how people choose and use the information they subsequently obtain.
After meeting a girl for the first time, your initial understanding will still affect her judgment of you months later. So when you meet a girl for the first time, at least make sure you look clean and don't talk nonsense, even as little as possible.
2. Love is about attraction
What is attraction? You were reading a book alone in the classroom. Suddenly the door was pushed open and a girl came in. The girl is fairer, has long black hair, is a bit short and thin. Is this girl attractive to you? Could this person become your friend or lover? Maybe, before you finish reading this sentence, you have already tried to answer it in your mind. And your answer is the result of your judgment on this girl's attractiveness.
From a psychological perspective, the first step toward successful relationships is always the same: interpersonal attraction, the desire to be close to others. The basis of attraction is actually a reward mechanism: whether the presence of others is rewarding for us. I won’t go into details here. In short, if you can attract girls, you can catch up with girls.
What attracts girls? Appearance, material or property, status or fame, knowledge or knowledge, social grace or character, character, attention... You don't have to be top of the list of things mentioned above, as long as you can exceed the average level, they can be counted. And girlsThe proportions of each of the above are different in different periods, and each item can be improved, even appearance (good clothing, good grooming).
3. Have your own independent personality
Some boys ask why, I chase girls so much For a long time, I was very kind to her every day, but in the end she chose someone else instead of me? Because you focus too much on the pursuit of yourself, it is difficult to reflect your independent personality, and it is difficult for girls to see your attractiveness, so you become a "good person" and a "spare tire", and this "spare tire" almost never Counterattack, even if you counterattack, it is easy to get a hat.
What is independent personality? You can have similar views to girls, and you can also have different views to girls. But you have to be yourself first. You have your thoughts and opinions about the world and certain things and people. The mommy boys and phoenix boys we often call actually lack independent personality, so they are rejected by girls. People with independent personalities are more likely to attract girls.
4. You must be good enough
Girls like good boys, no matter what they are. excellent. For boys, I hope you can understand that as long as you are good, you will definitely attract girls. Therefore, the best way to chase girls is to improve yourself. What excellence brings to you is not just that you are excellent in a certain aspect, but more importantly, it brings you self-confidence, making you full of energy and facing life positively. It will bring you more high-quality members of the opposite sex. Excellent girls will have fewer bad habits, and you will be more comfortable falling in love with her. Therefore, excellence is the trump card for chasing girls.
