Women generally prefer a mature and responsible man, not a naive man. Generally speaking, the older you are, the more mature you are, and women develop earlier, so even at the same age, they are much more mature than men. Therefore, if a woman is older than a man, it means that the man's mentality cannot match hers, and they cannot understand each other ideologically. Men are prone to engage in behaviors that women consider childish.
But whether one is naive or not has a certain relationship with age, but it has a greater relationship with emotional intelligence and social experience.
The so-called naivety generally refers to the performance of low emotional intelligence, the inability to correctly understand other people's thoughts, and always likes to do things based on one's own feelings when dealing with others, regardless of other people's feelings, or to vent emotions. Regardless of the consequences.
If a man is too naive, he will have almost no value in the eyes of women.
But having said that, do you know what behaviors will make you look naive in the eyes of girls?
1. Threatening the other party with breaking up at every turn
To be honest, this approach can be said to be one of the most commonly used methods by girls, because boys generally have greater needs than Girls and boys will often choose to compromise in the end, making girls feel that this trick is very useful.
Precisely because this is a common method used by girls, when boys use it, it seems a bit childish and ridiculous. She will feel that you are threatening her with this method, just like a mother-in-law.
In a state of unbalanced needs, this kind of behavior will only increase the resentment of the other party, and she will not compromise because of your threats. Often, if you say you will break up, you will really break up.
2. Deliberately flirting with women to attract girls’ attention
If it is the pursuit stage , the girl you like always keeps away from you, and if you are not willing to be ignored by her, it is barely understandable to do so, but if you are in love, this kind of behavior can be described as death.
Many people are emotionally frustrated. For example, when a girl doesn’t pay attention to them because they are not attractive enough, they like to prove to her that they are still very popular with women through some attracting behaviors. If you ignore me, you will suffer. Do you think girls will be jealous or jealous, and they will immediately turn around and hug you and say: "Honey, I was wrong." Do you know, in fact, the girl's heart at this time is two words: "Haha!".
Don’t think that only men care about women’s loyalty. In fact, women often value men’s loyalty more seriously. These days, women who cheat on women are still willing to forgive, but men who cheat on womenAlmost always give up very firmly. In particular, the more financially free women are, the closer they are to zero tolerance for men's flirting with women.
No matter what the purpose of a man is to provoke other women, even if you deliberately make her jealous because you love her too much, it is still very embarrassing for a woman.
Although it was said earlier that this approach is more serious during the love stage, this does not mean that it is not childish to use this method to deliberately attract a girl’s attention during the pursuit stage.
In fact, the process of your pursuit is the process of a girl examining you. At this stage, if you want to attract her attention by deliberately making the girl jealous, it will be even worse for the girl to break up with you directly. Not even taking it into consideration.
This approach is actually one of the most common mistakes made by both men and women! When you find that you are not attractive enough and cannot get the attention of girls, strengthening yourself is the best way.
3. Overly dependent on parents
Among the boys that girls hate the most There is such a thing as a mama's boy.
The so-called mama’s boy is overly dependent on his mother. “My mother said, I can’t do anything, so you have to do the same.” “Don’t wear this, my mother doesn’t like it.” My mother said you are XXXXX, so let’s break up.”
Especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is such a sensitive topic. If a man listens to his parents too much, you will not be able to protect her interests when she has differences with your mother. , resulting in her becoming statusless after marrying into your family.
Therefore, a man who relies too much on his parents is like an unweaned little boy in the eyes of a woman, making her very insecure. Only when a man is financially detached, has an independent personality, and does things without looking at his parents, can you have autonomy over your own love and marriage, and only then can a woman feel confident and bold to be with you.
4. Show off small achievements
Many people You may have had this experience when you were a child. For example, in elementary school, if a boy changed into a pair of brand-name sneakers, he would proudly show off to his classmates how much he paid for the shoes, making the boys envious and the girls jealous. A burst of jealousy.
Why do children like to show off so much? Because it can make you the focus of everyone's eyes and be noticed by everyone. This kind of attention is a powerful social resource that can help you get more among your friends. The right to speak.
But obviously for adults, this method of showing off is not only no longer an advantage, but has even become a disadvantage that is disliked by others. Our Chinese people's tradition since ancient times is humility, and we pay attention to high-profile things and low-key behavior. We are generally very disgusted with some people who like to show off..
When you have just achieved this achievement and share it with a girl, it will indeed increase your value in her heart, but if you always show it off and be proud of it, it will It's annoying.
Because you give people the impression that apart from this little thing, you have nothing else to offer. The more you talk about this every day, the more people feel your emptiness, just like a child. Buy I bought a beautiful new pencil case and wanted the whole class to know about it.
After a mature man has achieved something, he will use this as motivation to encourage himself to continue working hard, rather than as capital to show off.
