Many people feel that two people should be honest about their relationship, so they often do not shy away from past relationship history, good or bad. Some people who have been hurt by their exes are even willing to take the initiative to share their hurt experiences. , hoping that the other party will take more care of their own feelings.
But is this really good? For example, if a salesperson tells you that the sales of a mobile phone are not good, would you rather sympathize with the sales of the mobile phone, or doubt it? What about quality issues? As a customer, I think you will first question whether its low sales are due to quality issues.
Therefore, in terms of sexual relations, it is fine if you and your ex get together and break up easily, but if you are dumped, it is best. It’s better not to mention your ex, and never share your scars casually.
After all, whether a man and a woman have a relationship is a two-way choice. When you make a choice, the other person is also making a choice. Therefore, if you tell about your failed love history in the past and continue to fail again and again, the more you tell, the more the other person will question whether you are not good because you are not cherished? In addition, the other person will also think that either your vision is bad or not. No, either you like this kind of torture. When the other party realizes this, the better girls will automatically withdraw, and what is the purpose of the remaining ones approaching you? You taste it, you taste it carefully.
Therefore, don’t always do whatever you want, don’t always think about what you want, but study more about human nature and think about the consequences of doing something from the perspective of human nature. .
Easily exposing your painful past to others will send the message that you are weak. Everyone has shortcomings. Even if you have not met a liar, if the other party discovers your shortcomings in future interactions, you will receive such a sentence: "No wonder your ex treated you like that." When you accept After or before these words, she will start hurting you just like her ex, or even worse. Because she thinks you deserve it. It is difficult for the weak to get real sympathy.
Therefore, even if you have to mention your ex, try to say something good about yourself. Talk about past love history, talk about how your ex treated you well, and show others: Even if I am not perfect and have bad things, someone is treating me well. The other person will feel that you must have some little-known advantages, and they will focus more on finding your advantages, and they will naturally continue to treat you well in the future. So even if you don’t have a good ex, make it up.
Maybe a girl will ask: Since she is so good to you, why did she break up?
You think you are sincere, but then you don’t know how to hide it, and put your sad experience (not just feelings) , as well as the disrespect from parents when growing up) tell the other party that in De LaiAfter a few short words of comfort, if there is a conflict in the future, the other party will think of the hurt experience you mentioned before, and the other party will think: the reason why you were not respected or cherished before is because you have such and such shortcomings. Then, you won't get the other person's respect in the future.
Why? Because the other party will think: If others treat you badly, you can afford it. If you are treated badly, you should be treated like this. There is no need to condemn the indifference of human nature or its uselessness. Instead, we must learn to adapt to human nature and take advantage of it.
No matter what is revealed from your mouth, it is showing some aspect of yourself to the outside world. You must know what to show and what not to show. Creating an image is not called hypocrisy, but based on self-protection that conforms to human nature.
It’s not that many brothers don’t know this, but they just can’t control their emotions. When they talk about their ex, when they get angry, they tell all about it and vent it out. This is not good, because only if you fully understand human nature, you will not feel too much injustice in your heart, and it will be easier to heal yourself.
Remember, it doesn’t matter whether you were miserable or not. The truth is in your mouth. What matters is the attitude you show later.
Girls will evaluate your personality through your description in the process of getting along with you. These will not tell you, but will directly determine how they treat you. The quality of every person you have been with will affect your personality. No one is Sherlock Holmes. Girls learn about your past from your mouth. So if you tell girls yourself about being scummed by your ex, isn't it just for you? Are you going to dig your own hole and jump out of it?
If you are always the licker of a scumbag, your quality will be extremely low. When you are regarded as a person with no vision, no character and low value, and your conditions are not bad, you can only attract bad girls, and those high-quality women will naturally not be able to get your turn.
