After many people meet their favorite blind date, they can’t help but contact the other person every day, hoping to gain the other person’s favor by increasing their presence. However, this method not only fails to win the other person’s favor, but even arouses resentment. What is the reason for this?
Next, the editor will analyze for you the three major reasons why your blind date cannot contact you every day.
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1. Contact is not equal to favorability
Many friends believe that if I talk to girls more, our favorability will continue to rise. In fact, if you contact a girl every day, you will only increase the degree of contact with the girl, and the degree of contact does not equal the degree of favorability. For example, pure friends can chat every day and talk a lot, but friends usually don't call each other.
The advantage of a certain degree of contact is that a girl will feel more secure with you. When you invite her, because you know her better, it will make the invitation less difficult. But if the degree of connection increases but the degree of favorability does not change, you will soon fall into the friendship zone.
Imagine if two people talk about everything but don’t call each other, what kind of relationship is this? The answer is friends.
Imagine again, if you keep contacting her every day, but the other party's response is neither cold nor indifferent, what is the relationship? The answer is licking the dog.
2. Daily contact will reduce your sense of mystery
People have psychological science diminishing marginal effects. To put it simply, those things that make you feel fresh will no longer be fresh as you come into contact with them more and more frequently. Just like the new mobile phone you bought, you will love it and play with it back and forth. But as time goes by, the mobile phone is just a mobile phone. It is just a tool to you and becomes no longer novel.
In the same way, for a man and woman who have just met, they are full of freshness and desire to understand each other. But if you chat with her frequently and talk about everything, the novelty will continue to pass away, and eventually all the mystery will disappear.
The purpose of chatting with your blind date is to warm up the relationship, not to make friends with each other. You need to take advantage of her sense of mystery to quickly get into a woman's heart and establish a "revolutionary friendship" with her instead of constantly consuming it.
3. Contacting every day makes women feel that you have nothing to do
Women are very good at reverse thinkingAnimals, their thoughts are often divergent and completely different from men's views. For example, if you go on a blind date with a girl you just met, you will be extremely caring and lick her in every possible way to talk to her. Women will think the other way around, this man must be doing nothing every day and thinking about flirting with girls every day. He must be worthless. Even if he is very popular with women, how could he be so attentive to a girl he just met.
You see, your original wishful thinking has been lost in the hearts of girls. There are even many friends who like to talk when they have nothing to say. They have to keep chatting awkwardly even if there is no topic, and contact girls every day. In the eyes of girls, this is a kind of entanglement, which will only cause greater resentment in girls. If you do this, there are countless examples of being blocked and deleted by girls on blind dates.
In summary, regarding the question of whether you should contact your date every day, my suggestion is that you must have a process and structure before chatting, and anticipate how to heat up the relationship and how to make girls love you more. Good impression. Instead, you are bored now and need a woman, so you just want to chat with her. Doing so will only be counterproductive.
