Question: Let me introduce myself first. I am now 34. I was depressed for five or six years when I was around 24 years old. During those years, I gained weight and lost my hair crazily. After I came out again, I looked at myself in front of the mirror. , so ugly. At first glance, he looks like Lu Zhishen (his facial features are not as good as Lu Zhishen in movies and TV series). He still looks like this until now. Although he has lost fifty pounds, he is not much better. The flaws in his appearance are still there. So obvious.
Let’s talk about other things about me. I am 191cm tall and weigh 220kg. I am from Harbin and have a doctorate degree. I work in a research institute. Both my parents are directors of banks (I will definitely have a pension after retirement). There are 3 apartments (97, 100, 140) in the urban area, and the car is a mini Countryman.
I have been a solo player since I was born. I am very introverted and don’t like to take the initiative. My parents and relatives are very anxious. When we meet, they will nag us to hurry up and get married. But I am anxious and there is nothing I can do. I have been on blind dates over the years and failed. None.
In the past few years, people with a bachelor's degree or above had a so-called stable job, and basically nothing happened after meeting them once. Seeing that I am getting older, the lower limit introduced this year is lower again. There are no stable jobs introduced recently, and the scope has begun to expand outside the city. For example, there is a man who lives in a county town and whose children were divorced in 1991 and returned to his ex-husband; there is also a man who is three years older than me and sells clothes in a shopping mall, and his education level has also been extended to the technical secondary school level. Nothing like that worked.
I am so disgusted by blind dates now that I want to have a hair transplant and have plastic surgery. And with my condition, I don’t know how to meet a suitable girlfriend.
What should I do if a boy is ugly? How to find a girlfriend
Answer: I think compared to girls, a boy’s appearance is not the most important, and your other conditions are pretty good, these are all plus points, so being ugly is nothing. of. But according to what you said, if you have a poor image + introverted personality + are not proactive... then it will be a big problem.
For example, I have been shopping for a few hours, but I haven’t seen anything. I am about to leave empty-handed in frustration. I see a skirt that is okay, but it is only to the extent that I can buy it or not. I asked about it. The material was not breathable and difficult to take care of. The price was extremely expensive and the shop owner had a bad temper. He told me not to look at it if I didn’t buy it... Then of course I left. I can't just buy something that I'm not satisfied with in every aspect just so I don't go home empty-handed.
But suppose, the material is good, the price is super cheap, the shop owner is a handsome guy, and he calls me a girl every time. Even if I don't really like its style and color, I might still buy it after weighing the pros and cons. In other words, if there are shortcomings, there must be merits to balance them.
You say you are ugly, but are you really in need of plastic surgery? I don't think so. But you have to do other thingsMake up for it. If you are introverted and don't want to change, let alone chasing girls, if basic communication is not smooth, no one will be comfortable living with you in the future. In addition, you don’t need to be taught about taking the initiative. You have to prepare yourself mentally. Once you pass your level, you can go find someone to talk to and make an appointment with. While saying oh why no girl likes me, I didn't change at the same time. Then who can go on a blind date for you?
Moreover, your family is in good condition, your education and job are also good, so many girls on blind dates would be happy to do it. But why is there nothing more to say when I meet you? If you have a good chat, you won't get a second chance. Even if you meet the right person, if you don't express and act, you won't be able to give both parties a chance, and it will be easy to miss it. Those who lower the standards will not be considered.
You have to work hard to change yourself now and force yourself to take the initiative. Don’t always feel that others don’t like you. Don’t you also like others?
In short, just work hard. If the conditions sound similar, go and meet. When you meet someone you like, take the initiative to chat and make an appointment. Being ugly is not entirely your problem. Why do you keep having low self-esteem? From now on, we won’t do anything that makes other people’s ambitions destroy your own prestige. come on.
