When chatting with girls on WeChat, this will happen more or less: when you send a few messages and wait expectantly for a response, the other person’s replies are often perfunctory, or there is no response at all. But when you were bored and scrolling through your circle of friends, you saw that girl had just updated an update.
I believe that at this time, everyone’s mentality must be like 10,000 straw horses passing by. So what should we do when WeChat chat is perfunctory like this?
First of all We must first figure out the reasons and consider these issues from a girl's perspective. Never jump to the conclusion that a girl is ignoring you on purpose and toying with you.
Generally speaking, there are three reasons why girls are perfunctory when chatting on WeChat:
1. Girls are different I'm busy with things and don't have time to reply to your message
Maybe when you send a message to a girl, she happens to have something she has to do, including:
1. Maybe Chat with multiple people at the same time, one is your mother and the other is your best friend. When the girl wants to reply to your message, your best friend also sends a voice message, so please slow down your reply;
2. The boss just called Call her and ask her to revise a business copy immediately, and the client is urging her;
3. The girl was rushing to the subway after get off work, and she put her phone in her bag and didn't see your message.
In this case, if boys’ emotional intelligence is not high enough, they will usually send a series of “Are you there, what are you doing, what are you busy with, please reply to me, why don’t you reply to me?” Bombing girls is just a trick to commit suicide. Boys with high emotional intelligence usually choose to be understanding and tolerant. When they see that a girl doesn’t know how to use WeChat, they choose not to bother her. They leave a message on WeChat saying “Reply me when you have time.” Then they go and wait for the girl’s reply. The information is asking for clarity.
2. Topics that make girls not interested and don’t want to reply
Almost all of these topics that make them not interested are what most boys often say: "Are you there? Have you eaten? Have you slept?" etc. For example, you are chatting with a girl as usual and are going to ask her out for a meal:
Does it feel particularly familiar? At the beginning, I had a good chat with the girl, but then I didn’t know what I said, and she never showed up again. It wasn’t until I checked Moments that I found that she had just updated her status and made an appointment with someone else for dinner. At this point, you should realize that your way of chatting is wrong. It is so boring that the girl ignores you and has no interest in replying to WeChat.
So if you want to solve this problem, the editor will teach you a trick: first change the way you chat, withdraw your emotional needs and reduce the frequency of chatting, for example:
1. Refuse to ask questions and don’t chat for the sake of chatting. If you really can’t think of a topic, then hold back and don’t talk. Wait until you think of itWhen there are interesting topics, record them down to chat with the girl. For example, you recently discovered a gourmet restaurant, saw a funny joke, etc., and want to share them with each other. Purposeful chatting is better than aimless gossip.
2. Instead of staring at your phone while the message is being sent, do something else to distract yourself. Such as reading, playing ball, etc. Remember, a man who can attract girls will not be influenced by a woman's behavior.
3. Study girls' hobbies and chat with them to suit their interests. For example: a girl likes pets, then you can send her a picture of a pet, ask her what kind of dog it is, and say that you want to get a dog recently; or a girl likes watching movies, you can ask her to introduce a few movies, and then exchange ideas with each other. Movie viewing experience. Believe me, the effect of such a chat is definitely better than awkward chat.
4. Now start to reduce the frequency of chatting, from once a day to 1-2 times a week. Use the cold treatment method to make girls put down their guard, reduce the pressure of communicating with you, and refresh their impression of you.
Third, the impression in the girl's mind is reduced, which makes her feel bored
Everyone chats on WeChat. They are all: if someone you like sends you a message, they will reply instantly; if someone you don’t like sends you a message, they will hardly reply; if you start to feel bored, you will never reply.
When you first started chatting with girls, even though every day you asked "Have you eaten on time?" You share her life.
However, later you gradually found that her reply message changed from a dozen words to a few words, and finally just "um, oh, okay", and her attitude towards you became more and more perfunctory, even Sometimes I won’t reply to your messages. This situation is what is mentioned above. Your impression score in the minds of girls has been reduced, so the reply on WeChat is also perfunctory.
Therefore, in response to this situation, we can’t focus on how to get the girl to reply to the message quickly, but how to make her interested in you again and reshape the impression in her mind.
To put it bluntly, it is to rebuild attraction. Since she loves you and won't reply in the chat window, don't stick to it, be flexible and attack, and then do high-value display in the circle of friends.
You must know that an excellent display in the circle of friends is equivalent to your second "face" in the social circle. If you want to use this "face" to attract girls, you must prepare for it. For example:
1. Post some photos of personal hobbies, such as sports and fitness, or reading. This kind of positive circle of friends can easily inspire girls' associations. When she sees your colorful daily life, her inner impressions will immediately be added to yours.
2. Enrich the status of the circle of friends and update some high-value display surfaces. For example, go to interesting outdoor activitiesActivities - mountain climbing, self-driving tours, beach vacations, etc. Then take more photos of beautiful scenery or selfies, record your feelings in words, and tell your girl that you are a person who has taste and pays attention to the quality of life.
3. You can also share photos of you working hard and doing things in your circle of friends. This will subconsciously make girls think that you are a very responsible person. Boys who focus on work generally give people a sense of trust.
4. Although high-value Moments can increase impression points, you should not post too frequently, otherwise girls will think you are showing off. The frequency of posting to Moments is best 2-3 times a week, mainly pictures, no need for too much text, and let girls make their own associations.
In a word, what kind of person you are, then what kind of friend circle will be like. If you forward all kinds of chicken soup, pornographic jokes, advertisements, etc. every day, over time, girls will either regard you as a loser or treat you as a lowly, how can they still be willing to develop a relationship with you?
Beautifying friends Circles and creating high-value displays are just using means to show your best side. Only when the girl is attracted to you again, the chat window will open again. At this time, it is very likely that the girl will take the initiative to chat with you instead of ignoring you.
