Most girls are born with a lack of security. However, many boys have a vague concept of the word "security", let alone giving girls a sense of security. Therefore, many girls will say that they are not safe together. If you feel like this, what should you do in this situation?
Every girl hopes to find a man with a backbone and decisiveness. A leader-type man, because she feels more secure in front of such a man. If you don't have your own opinions and don't have the courage and courage to make decisions in everything, girls will feel that your life is unstable, your career is even more vulnerable, and you lack a sense of strength to act decisively.
For example, if you invite a girl to dinner, you always let the girl make the decision.
Some people may ask: I respect her taste and choice, am I wrong?
Of course it is wrong, because you are trying to please the girl, like a little follower. A woman is willing to be a little woman in front of a man, with everything arranged and always led by the man. She doesn't need a follower, she needs a strong real man who dares to make decisions.
If you want to respect her opinion, you can first provide a place of your choice. For example, you say: "Let's go eat Chongqing hot pot." Then look at the girl's reaction. If she is very resistant: "I can't eat spicy food, let's go to another restaurant." Then you can go to another one and say to her: "Then let's go eat Korean food and drink ginseng chicken soup~ "At this time, the girl will probably nod in agreement.
Of course you should respect the girl’s taste and choice, but the premise is that you have your own decision-making power and can flexibly adjust in time.
For another example, you want to take a girl to your house for a meeting, and she says, "It's too late, I'm afraid I won't be able to go back to the dormitory for a while." At this time, if you are a man with emotional intelligence, it is easy to Understand that girls are not really resisting.
You can say: "It's okay, just take a rest and I'll take a taxi to take you back in a while." You see the girl's face Although she was hesitant, she actually wanted to go, but she was just being reserved in a symbolic way, so you decisively helped the girl make the decision. As a result, she may go to your house to play for a while. In a relatively private space, when the love is deep, she can kiss naturally.
Girls will feel: He is really a man who can make decisions for me and take responsibility for me without making me feel embarrassed. Such people are certainly worthy of my reliance.
Then you must learn to control your emotions. If you have no emotional control, girls will think you are unreliable. For example, sometimes girls will deliberately challenge you and talk about your shortcomings. For example: "Why are you so fat, why are your clothes so shabby, why are your beard so ugly..."
This is called "Conformance Test"(Conformance Test)", that is, she wants to know whether you are a consistent, real cool man. What is important is not how you answer her questions, because she actually doesn't care about these shortcomings of yours. What she cares about is whether you will do it because of these shortcomings. Challenge and eager to explain themselves.
Only people who are not confident will explain themselves, and the most stupid behavior is to scold each other with girls. This is called a glass heart, because the little boy is too fragile and not worthy of the title. As a man.
This is cruel, but this is what the girl is thinking. If this man is not able to withstand even her small challenges and has no way to resolve them, how can he protect her from the wind in the future? Rain?
People often ask: Why do girls always refuse to believe that I will be good to her and make her happy?
Because girls never look at what you say. After all, it is easy for men to lie to get girls, so girls will test you in their own way.
In addition to challenges, there are also times when girls will deliberately not reply to you and ignore you to see if you send messages in a hurry. Some girls will even deliberately tell you that another boy is pursuing her. Are you jealous?
Some men think that by showing jealousy, the girl will be moved.
In fact, the more jealous you are, the more jealous you are. , it means that you are not liked by girls, and it means that you are very lacking in charm. When you show a relatively stable mentality, girls will feel your charm.
Here I have to mention something called "sense of boundaries." "Sometimes girls will test you by asking you to help, such as helping with work, helping with moving, helping with shopping. If you think this is an opportunity for you to show off, and try to be attentive, then you are screwed up. . Because a girl will feel insecure when she finds that you are a man she can control easily.
Because if she can control you easily, how can other women be so easy to control? Is she relieved?
At this time, you should tease her jokingly and say: "Call me brother first and come and listen. ”
Only when the girl obeys, do you help her. In this way, the girl will find you very interesting, and it will also stimulate her desire to conquer you and make her feel that you are not an easy man to deal with.
This is one type of "god-man thinking". If you use the chatting skills of "god-man thinking" well, you can guide a girl to chase you step by step. I cherish you very much, and I will trust you with confidence.
In summary, contact her more often, care about her more often, plan a better future with her, work hard to make money, and give her a warm home. The best way to reply.
