I am chasing a girl. I had a good conversation all the time, but suddenly one day she became cold and I couldn’t make a date. How can I make her enthusiastic again?
When the girl we are chasing becomes cold, we need to slowly analyze the reasons, and then take targeted measures to make her enthusiastic again.
Reasons why the girl you are chasing suddenly becomes cold:
Reason 1: A girl meets someone who is better than you Boys
In the process of your pursuit, if a girl meets a man with better conditions than you, and you don’t know how to flirt or provide emotional value to the girl, the girl will naturally change her goals and then ignore her. I'll ignore you because girls, like men, will be attracted to someone who is more handsome, richer, and powerful. If they don't have a deep relationship with you, they will consider changing owners. This is human nature, so it's human nature. Don't talk bad about girls. For example, if there is an ordinary girl chasing you, and in the process of chasing, a beautiful girl appears chasing you, how would you choose?
Reason 2: A major event occurs at home or within yourself
For example, a loved one dies suddenly, your job leaves your job, you want to develop abroad, study abroad, etc. If you feel bad about leaving your family or job, you should stop pursuing her at this time and instead comfort her and give her warmth and encouragement. If the other person doesn't want to chat or talk, don't disturb the other person and let her be alone. Later, when she goes to other places to develop or study abroad, she will consider that long-distance relationships are very tiring, so she will automatically choose to give up, because long-distance relationships are really difficult to last. And if you want to keep this relationship, you need to work hard to improve yourself, preferably by improving your financial strength.
Reason 3: Express your affection too early, or even confess your love
Before the other person deeply likes you Before, we should not launch an onslaught, especially not to express love. The most serious thing is to use WeChat, text messages, or phone calls to express love, which is tantamount to asking for death. There are several ways to express your need for affection, either through WeChat or SMS. For example, if you ask questions in a series of questions, you will ask why you ignore me? Why don't you reply to my message? Are you on good terms with someone else? Wait, etc., use questioning words to ask girls. You can also call girls late at night, keep calling if they don’t answer, go to girls’ dormitories, workplaces, or homes to intercept them, and ignore you, so you just send gifts to please girls and express your love to girls. These practices are all wrong. It can only make girls resent you more and more and stay away from you further and further.
Reason 4: Chatting is boring, boring and awkwardChat
The way of chatting remains the same. After asking various questions to check the other person’s household registration and telling the story, the other person will become indifferent to you. Most boys have such a problem. They were so hot before. It's because of the freshness and curiosity, and the subsequent indifference is because these things are gone. Usually boys at this stage will generally think that this girl is about to become their girlfriend, so they start to be crazy and attentive to her. She is very caring, what are you doing for a while? Ask her if you are busy? Tell her to remember to eat well, wear more clothes, don’t forget to bring an umbrella if it rains today, and so on. What's even more stupid is that you like to call each other "baby, darling, ah". These are all wrong methods.
When a woman has not had an intimate relationship with you, it means that she has not completely fallen in love with you, so she cannot be considered your girlfriend. This kind of greeting is equivalent to bribery and has low value for you. It will be useful for girls, but it will be of no use to girls with high value, the girls in your mind.
So how should we solve it?
Hurry up and stop this kind of communication. If you can’t help it, and you really want to send a WeChat message to the other party, it’s best to use this method. A format: your status + encounter something interesting + your feelings + ask the other party.
Example: 1: I ate a super delicious beef brisket noodles near the company today. Do you want to try it?
Example 2: My friend took me horse riding today. It's fun, if you are interested, I recommend you to play it and so on.
Chatting like this is much better than unilaterally expressing your affection and concern for girls, because you ignore the huge gap in the thinking of men and women. Men always go straight to the topic. Especially at this time, I can't wait to go to the top of the mountain and declare that this person belongs to me and declare your ownership. This is actually caused by possessiveness, but if you forget to communicate, it means you have forgotten to polish the emotional links between men and women at all stages. At this time, you should turn your eyes away from her and look at the world around you to discover some interesting things to increase your conversational potential. Then use these talking points to get the other person interested in you again.
Reason 5: Die in the light
I have a great time chatting with girls online, but once I make a date, After meeting each other or making a video online, the girl won't pay much attention to you after seeing each other. This kind of thing is going to be exposed to the public. It means that your image, temperament and clothing are LOW and do not conform to the aesthetics of girls. Many boys are blindly pursuing chatting skills, dating skills, etc., but they have forgotten to attract. When a woman understands you, she will first understand you through your appearance. When you have a good appearance and image, during chatting and dating, It will be much easier, even if you don’t know these techniques, you can still pick up girls., of course these skills will help you catch up with her faster.
