Most girls don’t know what kind of boys they like before they meet the person they like. So don’t ask them about their mate selection standards. Even if they tell you, when they meet someone they really like, their mate selection standards may be broken instantly.
, you will definitely think of it instantly! After all, they may not know what kind of boys they like, but they clearly know what kind of boys they hate. And all you have to do is not be that kind of boy. Now, let’s find out what kind of boys girls hate.1. Sloppy, greasy, and doesn’t know how to dress
First of all, when we meet the girl we are attracted to They are often unprepared and the opportunity to strike up a conversation is fleeting.
If a boy is wearing hair that has not been washed for a week, slippers and big pants, then bye-bye.
The first impression determines whether a girl will establish a friendship with a boy.
If you establish a good external image and maintain it for a long time, you may be able to meet true love when you go out.
2. Low emotional intelligence and unable to chat
After adding friends, it has been proved that the first level has been passed, but the second level is more dangerous.
Not surprisingly, this pass rate is as high as 99%.
In the eyes of girls, communication skills are as important as image.
Ten words to improve your emotional intelligence: empathize, understand how to advance and retreat, and be good at perception.
Let’s take the simplest example. After a boy adds a friend, he often asks for a photo as soon as possible.
Common failure cases:
Opening: "Hey beauty, send me a photo to see"
Girl: "There is no photo"
Response: “Let’s take the photo now”
Successful case:
Opening: “Hello”
Girl: “Hello”< /p>
Response: "Your avatar is quite cute" (guidance)
Girl: "You too, how did you get the translucent avatar?"
Response : "I can retouch pictures. If you are willing, I can also give you a photo." (Guidance)
Girl: "Really? This photo of mine is such a pity. Everything else is great." Okay, it’s just that the background is not good, please help me fix it.” (Send a picture)
Two essential points:
①: Not deliberately, not revealing “I just want to see you. What kind of thing?"
②: Give girls the right to choose, rather than making imperative demands.
3. Mommy's Boy
In any intimate relationship of any nature, "Mama's Boy" is a shortcoming that cannot be ignored. .
Don’t rush to draw a clear line. Let’s take a look at the performance of the mama’s boy, and then we will make the right decision:
①: Put “my mother said” on your lips.
②: I don’t know how to plan and arrange, and I have no independent opinion. It is difficult for girls to feel dependent.
③: The requirements for girls are many and high, and it would be just right if they are like "Mom".
④: He is not ambitious but takes it for granted, because his mother is his support.
⑤: Very easy to obey and will not reject others.
After listing the specific performances, we can easily understand why "Mama's Boy" is so unpopular, because he is really useless.
How to solve the attribute of "Mama's Baby"?
The direct manifestation of "Mama's Baby" is lack of confidence. There is no doubt that lack of confidence comes from lack of ability.
The only way to rebuild self-confidence is to try to face everything alone to improve your ability. Boys should behave like boys.
4. Self-righteousness and arrogance
First of all, what is "self-righteousness"?
Causes:
①: A sense of superiority brought about by a certain specialty (relying on talent)
②: Having no self-confidence, deceiving oneself and others, pretending to be confident to cover up shortcomings.
Specific manifestations:
①: Force others to accept their own opinions and love to argue.
②: Always maintain a high profile when interacting with others.
③: In order to maintain a false image, people often only talk but do not do anything.
④: Acquire that all your opinions are in line with the public, moral and reasonable. Those who express different opinions are aliens.
Logical chain:
Propose a brainless argument - look for individual examples - prove the brainless argument - generalize the argument to the whole.
I think I am very strong - because a girl smiled at me on the street just now - normal people will like me - you are a normal person - you must like me.
Just take a look. The logical chain that puts the three words "I think" at the beginning is actually a joke.
Self-righteous people believe that girls need a sense of dependence, but dependence is not the same as surrender. Girls also need to be treated in the same position.
Solution:
①: Broaden your horizons.
②: Improve ability. Ignorance is often more likely to make people confident than knowledge.
③: The first reason is to learn to discover your own shortcomings.and the advantages of others.
④: The second reason is to learn to discover your own true highlights and the objective shortcomings of others, and build normal self-confidence.
5. Set limits on yourself, lack confidence, dare not take action
Learned a lot of skills and used them in practice But it’s difficult to get up? That’s because I haven’t equated the “psychological positions” between myself and the girl.
Many boys often pursue "technical" breakthroughs and ignore the construction of psychological state. But in fact, these two points are equally important. If the "psychological position" is wrong, no matter how perfect the technique is, it will only treat the symptoms but not the root cause.
We promised to push and pull, but we always only dare to pull; we promised to suppress appropriately, but we keep kneeling and licking; we promised to demonstrate value reasonably, but we are always timid and dare not speak.
"I am not good at studying. It is normal to fail in the exam."
"I am just a lazy person, and this salary is enough for me.
"I'm just a loser, and it's normal for the goddess to look down on me. ”
Anticipating failure in advance and finding a suitable reason, we continue to maintain the existence of life comfortably. However, the theory of evolution tells us that the fittest survive, and the inferior are not qualified to reproduce.
6. Blind giving and self-movation
Yesterday a school girl shared a story with me:
Boys I gave up my job and came to her city for a girl, and cooked for her every day. Anyway, she was doing all kinds of things, and my whole life revolved around her.
After being rejected by the low salary, I worked hard to make money and reach the level of a girl. After asking for salary, she confessed her love again. The girl looked down at her phone and kept laughing, as if she didn’t hear what the boy was saying.
The boy gave up and the girl sent a message a week later: “Why don’t you come to cook. ?"
The boy used all his strength to reply with three words: "I'm tired."
The school girl cried when she told this story, saying that this boy is too good. .
"Don't cry in a hurry, if you were that girl"
Before I could finish my words, the school girl answered: "Yes, if I were that girl, I would have it too." Maybe I won’t agree, but I’m still very touched. ”
How to avoid falling into self-movement:
①: Examine whether your contribution is really needed by the other party, rather than imposing what you think is good on the other party.
②: Pay reciprocally.
Don’t ask for anything in return. Your love is not that great. No one who goes to the gambling table wants to leave empty-handed.
Is everything that I am investing so much in, after all these temptations and longing for a corresponding return, really “love”? Or are we still obsessed with the sunk costs?
Either you have enough chips to hold on until a comeback, or you just bet leisurely. If a girl bets two for nothing, you bet two thousand. Of course, you will lose quickly.
Yes, we also bet two hundred, up to two hundred and five.
If we bet two hundred and fifty, the opponent will still bet two hundred.
Then you can scroll up, there must be some fatal flaw that has not been corrected.
③: Lower the expected return threshold and break the unilateral obscenity of "already owned".
Think more about cause and effect from a practical level rather than playing metaphysics from an abstract emotional level.
A meal is a meal, and a cup of milk tea is a cup of milk tea.
It cannot carry all the affection that boys place on it.
Strategic laziness and failure cannot be covered up by smart tactics no matter how hard you try.
In fact, as long as you correct the shortcomings mentioned above, you will be enough to surpass most men. Being liked is only natural.
