When your girlfriend is unhappy, your relationship with her will definitely be unnatural. At this time, you need to take action to coax your girlfriend and make her happy, but how to do it specifically? It becomes a difficult problem. If you can't solve this problem, try the following methods.
1. Hold your girlfriend’s emotions
Many people may not have heard of the word hold. This is a term in psychology. Emotional holding means that you can be aware of the changes and fluctuations in the other person's emotions, but her changes and fluctuations need to be adjusted and alleviated by herself. Others cannot do it. Do this on behalf of the person concerned. For example, if you cut your hand while cutting vegetables, it hurts. When your mother comes to comfort you at this time, it actually cannot relieve your pain. Your pain still needs to be bandaged and rested for a period of time before it can be relieved.
Many boys cannot hold onto their girlfriend’s emotions when she is unhappy. Because when you see your girlfriend unhappy, you will naturally feel sorry for her, and then you will coax her. When your coaxing her has little effect, you may subjectively do some messy things in order to make her feel happy. She's happy and I hope she won't be sad anymore. This approach is a sign of not holding on to the other person's emotions, because the things you do for her at this moment are just to appease your own emotions.
Because she is unhappy, you will be unhappy too, and your emotions are completely aroused because of her emotions. So when your girlfriend is unhappy, it is natural for you to coax her, but boys must be able to hold each other's emotions. You must sort out your emotions and think about what you are doing now to relieve your own anxiety. Or is it to make her happy?
If you are doing it to relieve your own anxiety, then what you do at this time is tantamount to telling the other person, "Don't be unhappy. Your unhappiness makes me unhappy too." "So sad" is a way of forcing the other person to end their unhappy mood to relieve your anxiety. So when his girlfriend is unhappy, boys must learn to embrace each other's emotions.
2. Provide an environment for talking
When your girlfriend is unhappy, she will sometimes be angry, painful, sad, and aggrieved. At this time, what you need to do most is to be there for her. Provide a confiding environment so that she can happily vent all the unhappy and unpleasant things in her heart. Because when she is unhappy, what she needs most is an audience. She needs an audience who can listen to her unhappy and unhappy things. She needs to vent her emotions and release them.
Of course, this does not mean that you should be dumb. You still need to communicate with and respond to the other party at critical times. But many boys make mistakes when responding. They will analyze girls or give their own subjective opinions.Suggestion, this is wrong. As a listener, you only need to respond in accordance with what the other person wants to hear. Because the analysis and suggestions you give your girlfriend at this time will definitely not be adopted. Instead, she will find you annoying. In the words of girls, it is "you don't understand me."
Because she is unhappy now. Her emotions are anger, pain, sadness, and grievance. What she is telling you now is If you want to express her emotions, she won't be able to reason with you at this time. So what you have to do at this time is to provide her with a confiding environment and simply let her confide all her inner unhappiness.
Generally speaking, it is natural for you to coax her when she is unhappy, but you must remember the two points above. While coaxing her, you must maintain your own emotions and provide her with something to talk to. The environment is just fine. Just do these things well. Don't make things too complicated. The more you do at this time, it will make her annoy you more, because she relies on emotions to drive her brain when she is unhappy. Just do it simply. The right thing to do is to let her get through this emotional stage.
